How Do I Trust Him?

How Do I Trust Him?
The following quote shows that an inseparable part of loving someone is to trust them.
“I don’t pretend to know what love is for everyone, but I can tell you what it is for me;
Love is knowing all about someone,
and still wanting to be with them more than any other person,
Love is trusting them enough to tell them everything about yourself,
including the things you might be ashamed of,
Love is feeling comfortable and safe with someone,
but still getting weak knees when they walk into a room and smile at you.”

Q . I do trust him when he says he won’t cheat on me, but there’s something inside of me saying that I need to continue to watch him. I will wear myself out if I try to keep watching his every move. How do I trust him that all it is is just talking?”

Ans. If I were you, I’d stay off his computer — that tends to put you in the role of a snooping parent. What I would do, is keep communication open. It sounds as though when you talk to him, he’s very honest about what he’s done and his intentions, whether he’s able to follow through or not. You could simply ask him from time to time how he’s doing with his resolve and is there anything the two of you need to talk about? And from your side, rather than make him wrong, you can just be clear about how it all makes you feel. Mostly, things tend to go wrong when we stop communicating, when we stop speaking our truth. And, of course, the bottom line is, suspicion can truly destroy a relationship so, I’d suggest talking and trusting.